Having someone to look up to isn’t a bad thing. Seeing certain skills and aspiring to duplicate them can drive you forward. But sometimes derby players let our heroes, or our view of them, cloud our judgment about our own skill. Here are a couple of things that help me keep perspective.
1. Even my hero has doubts.
As you saw last week, I had a moment of self doubt. While I’m not the greatest skater, I am aware that there are skaters who look up to me. They may think I have it all together, but I don’t. Of course, neither do the skaters I look up to.
After all star travel team tryouts here in Houston, it amazed me how many of my league’s amazing skaters admitted they were worried about not making it. Really? ‘Cause I figured you had it in the bag. That’s just it, though. As someone who looks up to them, I only see what they do right. They see what they do wrong, just like I do with myself.
2. I will never skate exactly like [insert player name here].
While I love watching players like Francey Pants or Mistilla play, I will never skate exactly like them. Every skater has her own unique style of skating. This is influenced by body type and training.
I didn’t grow up as a speed skater like Mistilla. I’ve never been a hockey player like Francey Pants. I can dissect certain skills they have and try to imitate it, but ultimately, it will look different because I am different. I skate like me, not them, and I have to learn to accept and celebrate that difference.
Every skater has an equal opportunity to be an asset to her team. We don’t all skate the same, but those different skills are what can make a team great. Metaphorically, we sometimes have to kill our heroes to achieve our own goals.
P.S. Huge thanks to everyone who left comments or sent me messages last week. The support was overwhelming and much appreciated. Thank you all!